I need help......

[Darth_Purrface]

Hate me as much as you like, I will still admit this. I know it's weird to admit such a thing to people I have never met, but after the advice I seen you guys give to people, I thought it would be a good idea to ask for advice here. I barely have any family left to confess this to, disregarding my twin sister but she's in the same situation as me! My father died when I was 13, at that time I was fighting with him for not buying me a new pair of expensive jeans. He got very angry and left the house, soon a call came from the police informing that he died in a car crash.Then when I was 17, my mother was arguing with me at night about why I couldn't support my own college funds by getting a part-time job, then I think because of the burdening stress she already had from the death of my father, she died of a heart attack in the morning. After that I just broke down, I failed several times in my college exams because of my stress, and started to act with weird behavior such as a high amount of immaturity, or over emotional behavior. Then I started isolating myself, losing all of my friends in the process. I just can't cope with it anymore! If the stress doesn't kill me first, then an over outrageous situation will! I have been trying to lighten things up by making some jokes or looking at the brighter side of things, still didn't help. Should I get some therapeutical help, or is there a therapist right here, or should a few actions take care of this? Please help.....

 

[Godliberator]

Although I am one of the first to view this post. I am going to withhold my advice temporarily and allow some fellow members of this community to take the lead. I will collect my thoughts and return with advice.

 

[JerzeyLegend]

I'm not good at coping.

There are plenty of hotlines that you can use if you need to just vent. Telling someone and them listening helps a lot. No one here is a therapist, so I would take anyone's advice (even my own) with a grain of salt.

Not sure how recent this was, but time heals all wounds. Go out and do something, but being silly and overemotional is fine with me.

 

[Zerobit4]

I don't know what kind of personal connection you had to your parents, and I might not be able to understand it either. I never had a good connection with my father, and that's an understatement for how he's treated me and the rest of my family. My mother thinks that because I don't accept her ways of living, the way she was brought up, that I can't be a healthy and sane member of this world. However, I get the feeling that you believe your parents fates were caused by you, even if indirectly. This alone could be causing much of your stress, along with how hard it is to simply move on from the deaths of those close to you. The only thing I could suggest is that you talk with an actual counselor or therapist of sorts, perhaps with your sister present if it would make you more comfortable talking about your situation. Jerzey's hotline idea is also something you might want to try if you plan to keep this more anonymous.

I'm sorry that I can't provide more answers for you, but such is the way of strangers conversing on the internet. Confessing your feelings to us is a small, but significant part of what we hope is to be your recovery process.

 

[lacar1601]

Please seek professional help at your college. They should have an office for helping students with these kinds of situations. Look it up on your school website. Find a telephone number and call them. Look for an address and walk in. Someone will help you. Tell them your situation just as you described it here. Ask about the things you should be doing next. Try to plan the next few months.

I have to admit, your situation is one of the more ill-opportune scenarios I have read, but it's not the worst. I wholeheartedly commend for finding the courage to reach out to other people and seek help. I give even more praise for your strength in dealing with it as long as you have. Please continue to show that strength and don't give up. Things will get better.

 

[Darth_Purrface]

Thanks for some of the advice guys, I'll try to follow it.......

 

[whatupguys1]

Maybe I won't be of much help but here's what I think. Speak to someone in person, preferably someone you trust, just your sister could be a great help (but a counselor or therapist can work too). Usually just speaking about it can help you vent all the feelings pent up from these events. Know that you're not alone, you still have your sister with you, and if it means anything, everyone here can listen to your problems and is willing to help you out.

Lastly, i wish you luck and hope you can overcome your problems. Have a picture of a cute kitty to lighten up your mood. I don't mean to make a joke out of your problem, but just laughing at simple things can help you forget the pain and see it from another point of view. So long as you can still laugh and smile it will get better.

 

[FaerieInCombatBoots]

All I'm going to say that therapy is a wonderful, wonderful thing. It's a good way to express your feelings, especially if you have no other safe outlets to do so. A therapist can teach you skill to learn how to cope and handle stressful situations as well. A psychiatrist can properly evaluate and diagnose you, and if needed, will be able to prescribe medication.
While T9K is a great support system of caring people, it would be better to see a professional.

 

[Godliberator]

M'kay, I have returned. My advice lines directly up with faerieincombatboot's advice. The situation you described yourself in does sound traumatic and to be honest, we are just voices on the internet. We are caring and optimistic voices in the internet sea of negativity, but we cannot truly compare to an in person session with a therapist/psychologist/mentor/an open ear.

with that said. I do wish you luck in coping with your losses, and remember that t9k and its members are always here and always a good source to just cut away from things, relax, and have fun playing video games.

 

[Dr_LASR]

Ok... Time to get this spiral back into control. Start listening to music everyday, stuff that motivates you and makes you want to dance, move, sing, anything. Really enjoy something? Let it be gaming, dancing, sports... Do that. As much as you can. It WILL make you feel better. Start getting in shape, doing so makes you feel better about yourself, and will start getting other people to admire your great looks. Go to parties! Talk to that one girl you've been staring at, but have never had the confidence to do so. Do whatever you want, whenever. Live life the way you want to, not the way everyone else wants you to.